Learning Dutch is a must if you want to live in Holland, something I am prepared for mentally even before I got here. I must say, my Dutch (`niet goede' yet ok..) gets better each day because I ask a lot of questions, like..how to say this, how to spell a word and why cant it be a shorter phrase? And my hubby is very patient in teaching me. So that helps. But certain time, just when my brain doesn't have much space for the `difficult language', it shuts off completely. I am eager to learn new words, grammars and phrase each time...especially after experiences of being in gatherings where mostly are Dutch. First they would start with English, and then gradually moving in to speaking their native language, without any `warning'.! helllooo! That made me feel so out of place and I thought, `WTH'..what happen now?..most of the time, I had to pretend I was enjoying the cool breeze blowing softly on my skin..holding my glass of wine, pretending.., yes I am in the conversation now with you guys and be polite enough not to ask them to speak in English while I supposed they should be aware I do not comprehend the language fully yet. The strange thing was, after a while, they continued in English again. But they left me in a far corner of the conversation that I had no clue what did I missed. Ohh..this happens a lot when you mingle with the Dutch. So, this could be terribly frustrating and make me wanna learn this damn language. I would even imagine inviting them for a party with all my friends speaking chinese! there you go! Learning Dutch is fine by me as I am quite enthusiastic to learn in order for me to blend in well with the locals here.